Confession: More often than not I get so wrapped up in waiting for the perfect time to do something that nothing gets accomplished. I wait and wait… saying “yes, let’s do that, but later.” I try to plan everything out and spend lots of time worrying about the ‘what ifs’.
If I made all of the decisions in my relationship there’s no way my husband and I would be where we are today. Thankfully he is more of a ‘get it done’ type of a guy and pushes me a bit in that direction. He doesn’t wait for the perfect opportunity to commit to something, buy something or make a change. If he really wants it, he makes it happen.
I have to admit this character trait of his has been known to give me major anxiety at times, especially when it involves large purchases like houses and cars, or signing a 5 year lease on a gym. But you know what? Some pretty awesome things are the direct result of him not being afraid to dive in. We got married, have an amazing baby boy, live in a beautiful house and now own a company doing what we have always wanted to do. Let’s just say I’m pretty sure none of those things would have happened had I sat around and waited for the perfect time.
In addition to my husband’s ways rubbing off on me a bit, I’ve found that the combination of being a mom, starting a business, working full time elsewhere (doing something completely different) and training for the RKC leaves me no choice, but to move forward despite imperfect conditions. Life isn’t perfect and timing is rarely perfect. If you let that paralyze you, you’ll get nowhere. Commit to the things you want and make them happen…no matter what.
Check out this post by Mary called The Right Moment. Although I’ve had this post in the back of my head for awhile, her post inspired me to finish writing it. 🙂
What in your life do you really want, but feel like you’re always waiting for the perfect time to make it happen?
I agree Amanda! I am the “get it done” one in the family…it can be scary, but often worth the risk 🙂
It’s so scary . Going through more changes now, but remembering that it’s all good things and embracing it. 🙂
Great post!!! We can’t sit around waiting for perfect because it will never happen. We do our best, learn from mistakes….and LIVE!
Yup! How are you ever going to really ‘learn’ if you don’t take risks and make mistakes? 🙂
This is a great post! I’m usually the one that spends way too much time weighing decisions and calculating this and that but I too have realized that there will never be the “perfect” time. Things will never line up “perfectly.” I think that I tend to be bogged down by the big picture which makes it difficult for me to move one way or the other. But over the past year, I’ve been trying to focus more on the things that I can control and move forward little by litte. It’s about owning my path, future and happiness.
Yes…as I get older and realize that perfect timing is just so so hard to come by, I find myself making more changes/taking more risks! And focusing on what you can control is a great idea. Easier said than done, right?
My husband is the same way! I’m a huge planner and he’s the “let’s just do it or go” type of guy. I think it’s a good balance for us! But your right sometimes you just have to DO IT! 🙂 Great post!
I think it helps when at least one person in a marriage has a bit of Just Do It in them…keeps things moving. 🙂
although i don’t have children or a business, i too can related with becoming paralyzed with decision! i always wish i were more spontaneous than i really am, as well. but knowing is half the battle, right?! 🙂
It’s just so silly. I mean I have a tough time deciding where I want to go for dinner if we are doing out and it really doesn’t matter at all. 😉 Yes…knowing is definitely half the battle! 🙂
So so true! I always wait too… my husband gets stuff done. 😉
HA…see that is why you are a good pair. 🙂
Excellent post and a great reminder to us all. Waiting for the right time applies to so many of the big decisions in my life (babies, buying a house, moving), but it also applies to the little things. For instance: “I’ll do my run/eat healthy/do laundry on Monday because that’s a start of a new week and its just the right time to do it”. Doesn’t that sound silly?
This is definitely something I want to change about myself!
Wow…great point. I hate the all-too-common ‘I’ll start eating better or start working out on Monday’…it kills me. Why not start now? (Not judging either…I used to always have that attitude which is why I never got anywhere. One day/meal at a time works a whole lot better than wait til Monday!)
Awesome job finishing your post! So glad you came across mine! Every little push in the right direction makes such a difference 🙂
Thanks…and thanks for the inspiration! 🙂
Such a great post. I feel like I’m always waiting and never actually acting.
Me too! I have been getting sick of it lately and just saying YES and going for it more often. It’s freeing and I highly recommend it. 🙂
This is perfect for me! I’m going to be taking a BIG risk soon and working for myself full time. Right now it’s all about building connections and trying to have some stability once I leave. I’m young and I don’t have a family to support so I think this is the perfect time for me to take this risk. It’s really scary though! Thanks for this post!
YAY! So excited for you Kendall. I know you’ll do awesome. Good luck!!! 🙂
Agree 100%. I’m such a planner and always get disappointed when plans fail. But there is no perfect time for anything.
PS- I don’t know how you do it all. You’re super woman!
Me too! I’m really working on it though because life can not be planned out. It just doesn’t work that way.
This is an awesome post — not only does it show how much of a dream chaser you and your husband are but it shows anyone out there that dreams CAN be reality. Truly they can. I think that’s what this year is becoming for me – this year of “no limits” as I call it – is about me reaching for and grabbing those dreams and hanging on to them tightly. Life is too short to what if.
You’re so right. It is way too short. What’s the worst that can happen if you reach for your dreams, right? 🙂
SO true. I am sort of with you on this one too…I tend to worry about everything and want it to be perfect before diving in. But sometimes a little bit of imperfection makes it THAT much more worthwhile, doesn’t it? Congrats on taking the leap 🙂
Thanks…they’ll be more leaps in the future, but we’re heading in the right direction!